Category: Sleeping with Money

Dating can be harsh, as the Sleeping With Money series will sometimes indicate. I’ve dealt with some heartless people in the past, although some could say the same about me. One of my meanest experiences was purely unintentional on my part. The source of my guilt: I overreacted to finding out that someone was a…

No matter how you slice it, once you are in a committed relationship, whatever happens to one person affects both of you. Even if you keep your financial lives somewhat separate, let’s face it, there is a joint impact. Some unexpected events from this week got me to thinking about this very concept even more…

In this week’s Sleeping With Money I let you in on some of the foibles of my past. Oh dear, how we queers love serial monogamy! And so many of us also want marriage equality so badly that when we fall for someone, we start thinking big. Three years ago, I was quite madly in…

“Perfect love cannot be without equality.” – Scottish Proverb Last week, Jim at Blueprint for Financial Prosperity posed a question (primarily to straight men) as a way to learn if they are / would be bothered by their wives earning more money than them. Some of the comments were quite interesting if you care to…

It’s summer, and here come the road trips. On a recent excursion down the Pacific coast with Zac and some friends, I started thinking about a Sleeping With Money lesson that never happened. What if I got into an accident while driving a car belonging to the guy I was dating? In my single days,…

“Love is a choice you make from moment to moment.” — Barbara De Angelis It’s rare that Jeanine and I ever have a serious argument. It’s even more unusual when the squabble is about money. We typically see eye-to-eye on finances and even though our money styles differ, our overall philosophy is the same. When…

Once you’re in a relationship for good, do you merge your finances, keep them separate, or somewhere in between? I don’t think there is any one right or wrong answer, but it sure is an ongoing conundrum in my quest for blissful money matters with my mate. When we first merged lives some 15+ years…

I am excited to share my first contribution to the Sleeping with Money series and hope you enjoy the article. I have alluded to my relationship briefly in past articles. My partner, Khaia, and I were both formally employed when we met. Medical insurance, employer matched 401Ks, and paid vacations were the norm. Ahhhhh, the…

When a couple gets involved in a long distance relationship (LDR), they sign up for more than the emotional cost of being separated. LDRs get expensive to maintain, not so much with communication thanks to technology, but really because of rising transportation costs. There’s no dispute that a LDR is worth every penny for a…

“In reality, serendipity accounts for one percent of the blessings we receive in life, work and love. The other 99 percent is due to our efforts.” — Peter McWilliams This week’s Sleeping with Money lesson is about establishing boundaries. I met Partner #2 right after my brief stint with Robin. It was a difficult time…