Category: Sleeping with Money

As I thought about writing this installment of Sleeping with Money, I thought I’d ask my partner Kim what her insights were on this topic. After over 15 years together, I’m sure she has some lessons learned as well. And, since I don’t have any exciting sordid tales of flying across the country to meet…

This week’s edition of Sleeping With Money is about the struggle lovers often have over how much to spend on food and includes hints on how to compromise. I have never had a partner whose class status was the same as mine growing up. My family had strange values about money. When I was small,…

This week’s Sleeping With Money lesson is a happy story about the romantic present and the optimistic future, with a little bit of brazen past thrown in the mix. It’s a story about my relationship with Zac, and how our coupling up resulted in a metamorphosis of our respective lifestyles and finances. When there’s a…

“The past exists only in our memories, the future only in our plans. The present is our only reality.” — Robert Pirsig I’ll preface this now: there isn’t anything hot about this week’s Sleeping with Money story. Sorry to disappoint. I have other steamy episodes, but this wasn’t one of them. I dated Robin for…

In the Sleeping with Money series we talk about all the lessons we’ve learned from our relationships. Well, sometimes our lessons come once removed. In my previous post on this topic I talked about the rose colored glasses that come at the start of a relationship. While you can eventually iron things out within your…

So many lessons we’ve learned, positive and negative, in Sleeping With Money. My story today is about a person I dated while attending Divinity School (yes, that’s school for studying religion) at Harvard in the ’90s. What a motley crew at Harvard Div: the two largest groups were the true-believer Catholics, and then the anti-Catholics…

In this week’s Sleeping with Money series in which we talk about money lessons learned from lovers and relationships, I’m going to turn to the device of allusion. Nearly seven years ago I moved to San Francisco with my boyfriend at the time. He was my first boyfriend ever, and much like Nina’s first same-sex…

“Money and women. They’re two of the strongest things in the world. The things you do for a woman you wouldn’t do for anything else. Same with money.” — Satchel Paige Sleeping with Money is our series at Queercents about money lessons learned from past lovers and partners. These include a few escapades: Rachel was…

Way back in the day when I was young and in love for the first time I didn’t let money get in the way of impressing my girl or simply doing what I wanted. I was fresh out of college, in love and in the process of coming out to myself (and each other since…

Continuing our new series “Sleeping With Money” about money lessons learned in relationships, my story today is about one of the hottest guys I ever met, an honest-to-god park ranger in San Francisco. (This picture is of a hot model, not the guy I’m talking about.) We met through a kind of club that a…