I’ll admit, this is more of a rant and a survey than anything informational.

I’m looking forward to making a family. We’re in the very beginning stages of planning the future but I can’˜t stop thinking about it. One of the biggest things I am obsessing on is wanting a Big House. But this wanting is very confusing for me . Firstly I am not a shallow girl, and secondly, we’re not planning on having more than one child, two at most. Plus, I’ve never been competitive or very greedy or much about keeping up with any Joneses. Okay, so maybe I’ve been called a princess once or twice, but I wasn’t raised in a palace. Then again, maybe this is the reflexive effect of growing up in a two bedroom guest house with skylights instead of windows.

Still, there are big houses in my dreams at night. I am compelled to look at them on Craigslist. By big, I mean at least four bedrooms and a basement. Is it just my innate ‘œnesting’ desires and ovulatory hormones which bark this request at me? Is it a femme thing: high heels, high hair, fake eyelashes, big purse, big house? This goes completely against my ‘œlive small and simple’ environmental ethics, my penny-pinching jew-hippy morals. And certainly, we’ll need something bigger than our current 1.25 bedroom, but really, three bedrooms would be enough.

I’m hoping to hear from readers of Queercents, because I have some questions:

1.) If you have a ‘œBig House’, why?
2.) Does your big house have to do with having or wanting children?
3.) Do gay men want Big Houses with or without children?
4.) Did you buy a big house to home all of your rescued animals? (I think my friend Erin did this)
5.) Does anyone ‘œrent’ a really Big House?
6.) Does anyone but me take ‘œvirtual tours’ of huge houses you will never have?

I can’t have a big house right now, or maybe ever, so I’m settling for the excitement of taking pre-natal vitamins to build up my folic acid and iron reserves. Because, of course, what matters in my heart is my fulfilling, fun and growing love with my partner, and hoping for a healthy baby sometime in the future. But often my mind wanders’¦.Victorian edging, a dance space with ballet bar, play room, (kinky dungeon?) breakfast nook, laundry chute…